What If … Everything Turned Out as You Hoped?
Tomorrow’s Forecast Looks Like … Your mind is neither a fortune teller nor time traveller, but that won’t stop it from trying to project into the future or cast back to what’s already been. Minds are constantly gathering information to...
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Stuck in Struggle: When Fear Douses Your Dreams (And What to Do About It)
Eight Years …Eight years. That’s how long it had been since Kate could remember waking up in the morning and not vomiting from anxiety. Three years longer than her daughter had been alive, more than two thirds of the entirety of her marriage, and likely...
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Overcoming Blocks to Your Dreams – Overanalysis and Other Annoying Things the Brain Does When It’s Scared
When Fear Takes Hold It was a Tuesday many years ago when Jane (not her real name) and I met. I was in full-time clinical practice and my schedule was booked solid for this particular day. In between clients, I slipped into the kitchen to make tea. I...
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Hope is Never on Holiday
It Started Off Well …You’re a little further on from the promises you made to yourself at the beginning.The beginning of the year. Month. Week. Day. Whenever it was, it was a beginning that you were invested in because something powerful was present:...
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When Your Path Forward is Elusive ~ Finding Direction for Your Dreams
The (Emotional) Winds of Change I don’t know the number of times in my life where I have lost, changed, or been unsure of my direction but I know there are too many to count. Three forks in the road stand out, though, because they were fraught with a...
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An Overdue Letter to Change
Dear Change, We Need to Talk In the midst of a season where you have been ever-present, I wanted to write to you and explain what it’s like having you around. As you know, I’m not the best at embracing you face-to-face. I’m not the type to welcome you with open...
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Life: How to Hold It Gently (When You’d Prefer to Fight with Every Fibre of Your Being)
A week ago, I received some news I wasn’t expecting. It was news that travelled down the phone quickly and sideways before burying itself into my ear – with just the same amount of comfort you’d expect a sand crab would have in your acoustic meatus. That is, negative...
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A Case for the Open-Hearted
When pain is indescribable, unspeakable, unmanageable, and especially, unwanted – what are we to do with our heart? What are we to do with the very thing that got us in this situation in the first place because we loved; became attached; cared; and simply, felt …...
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Say No To Hustle
We had a discussion over on Instagram this week about my strong dislike of the word “hustle”. In fact, you could say that I consider "hustle" a curse word of the highest order. It’s up there with the word “yolk” for me. Okay, I don’t like “yolk” because of how it...
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How I Learned to Trust Myself (by walking out on myself and then coming back)
I talk about asking for help regularly, and when I do, it’s usually in the context of reaching out to those close for a willing hand. There’s something that I don’t talk about enough when it comes to asking for help … and that’s asking for help from yourself. My...
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About me
Longing to seek – and find! – a beautifully expansive, inspired life? You’re in the right place. I’m Dr Rebecca Ray, writer and clinical psychologist. I’m here to support you and guide you and your adventurous heart as you learn, grow and explore the possibilities of the expansive, inspired life you deserve.
