An Overdue Letter to Change
Dear Change, We Need to Talk In the midst of a season where you have been ever-present, I wanted to write to you and explain what it’s like having you around. As you know, I’m not the best at embracing you face-to-face. I’m not the type to welcome you with open arms,...
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Life: How to Hold It Gently (When You’d Prefer to Fight with Every Fibre of Your Being)
A week ago, I received some news I wasn’t expecting. It was news that travelled down the phone quickly and sideways before burying itself into my ear – with just the same amount of comfort you’d expect a sand crab would have in your acoustic meatus. That is, negative...
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A Case for the Open-Hearted
When pain is indescribable, unspeakable, unmanageable, and especially, unwanted – what are we to do with our heart? What are we to do with the very thing that got us in this situation in the first place because we loved; became attached; cared; and simply, felt …...
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Say No To Hustle
We had a discussion over on Instagram this week about my strong dislike of the word “hustle”. In fact, you could say that I consider "hustle" a curse word of the highest order. It’s up there with the word “yolk” for me. Okay, I don’t like “yolk” because of how it...
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How I Learned to Trust Myself (by walking out on myself and then coming back)
I talk about asking for help regularly, and when I do, it’s usually in the context of reaching out to those close for a willing hand. There’s something that I don’t talk about enough when it comes to asking for help … and that’s asking for help from yourself. My...
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When Patience is Not Your Strong Suit
Patience is not my strong suit. In fact, I’d go as far to say that my lack of it has been responsible for significant frustration in those people that know and love me. But no one has been more frustrated than me because I’m aware that my being impatient makes the...
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A Letter to My 20-Something Self
Dear Beck-In-Your-Twenties, Stop worrying about whether people are judging you. Some are and some aren’t. The ones that judge are the ones that are blinded by their own insecurities. You’ll eventually learn that giving a shit about what other people think is a waste...
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Comfortably Numb: When Avoiding Pain is Not at All Comfortable.
Comfortably Numb: When Avoiding Pain is Not at All Comfortable. “I just want to be happy,” you say. Translation: “I’d like to feel only the pleasant feelings from here on in, thanks very much.” I get it. A reasonable request, by anyone’s standards. The thing is not...
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Notes on Letting Go
It sounds almost poetic, doesn’t it? Let it go. Letting go. Let go. Let = allow. Go = move now. Letting Go = Allow yourself to move now. Despite how it sounds, there’s no part of letting go that is easy. If there was, I wouldn’t be asked how to do it at least a...
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When They Don’t Understand Your Journey
When we grow… Growth. It’s one of my favourite topics for many reasons, but this week I’ve been thinking about it because a friend was talking to me about her struggle with feeling misunderstood on her journey. She explained to me that she’s done a significant amount...
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About me
Longing to seek – and find! – a beautifully expansive, inspired life? You’re in the right place. I’m Dr Rebecca Ray, writer and clinical psychologist. I’m here to support you and guide you and your adventurous heart as you learn, grow and explore the possibilities of the expansive, inspired life you deserve.
