When Your Path Forward is Elusive ~ Finding Direction for Your Dreams
The (Emotional) Winds of Change I don’t know the number of times in my life where I have lost, changed, or been unsure of my direction but I know there are too many to count. Three forks in the road stand out, though, because they were fraught with a...
An Overdue Letter to Change
Dear Change, We Need to Talk In the midst of a season where you have been ever-present, I wanted to write to you and explain what it’s like having you around. As you know, I’m not the best at embracing you face-to-face. I’m not the type to welcome you with open...
Life: How to Hold It Gently (When You’d Prefer to Fight with Every Fibre of Your Being)
A week ago, I received some news I wasn’t expecting. It was news that travelled down the phone quickly and sideways before burying itself into my ear – with just the same amount of comfort you’d expect a sand crab would have in your acoustic meatus. That is, negative...
A Case for the Open-Hearted
When pain is indescribable, unspeakable, unmanageable, and especially, unwanted – what are we to do with our heart? What are we to do with the very thing that got us in this situation in the first place because we loved; became attached; cared; and simply, felt …...
Say No To Hustle
We had a discussion over on Instagram this week about my strong dislike of the word “hustle”. In fact, you could say that I consider "hustle" a curse word of the highest order. It’s up there with the word “yolk” for me. Okay, I don’t like “yolk” because of how it...
How I Learned to Trust Myself (by walking out on myself and then coming back)
I talk about asking for help regularly, and when I do, it’s usually in the context of reaching out to those close for a willing hand. There’s something that I don’t talk about enough when it comes to asking for help … and that’s asking for help from yourself. My...
When Patience is Not Your Strong Suit
Patience is not my strong suit. In fact, I’d go as far to say that my lack of it has been responsible for significant frustration in those people that know and love me. But no one has been more frustrated than me because I’m aware that my being impatient makes the...
A Letter to My 20-Something Self
Dear Beck-In-Your-Twenties, Stop worrying about whether people are judging you. Some are and some aren’t. The ones that judge are the ones that are blinded by their own insecurities. You’ll eventually learn that giving a shit about what other people think is a waste...
Comfortably Numb: When Avoiding Pain is Not at All Comfortable.
Comfortably Numb: When Avoiding Pain is Not at All Comfortable. “I just want to be happy,” you say. Translation: “I’d like to feel only the pleasant feelings from here on in, thanks very much.” I get it. A reasonable request, by anyone’s standards. The thing is not...
Notes on Letting Go
It sounds almost poetic, doesn’t it? Let it go. Letting go. Let go. Let = allow. Go = move now. Letting Go = Allow yourself to move now. Despite how it...
Rebecca Elsewhere
I write – sometimes a little, mostly a lot (because permission to embody creative living is freeing for doing the things I love most). My own projects demand most of my time, but I like to leave a small real estate space for guest writing in publications that resonate with me on a deep level. If you think that’s your brand, get in touch!
My words in special places …
- Dreams for Breakfast: 5 Successful Women Share Their Morning Routines
- Peppermint Magazine: We Are One issue, “An Ode to Quiet Courage” (article)
- Move to Heal Project: Moving Through Emotional Discomfort – blog post
- Peppermint Magazine: Digital Blog: Look on the Bright Side – extract from Be Happy Book
- Peppermint Magazine: Ancient Wisdom Issue: The Counter-intuitive Path to Happiness
- Wellness Goals: In Conversation with Rebecca Ray on Self-Care (interview)
- Happy Mama Magazine: What I Wish I Knew About Becoming a Mama
- Collective Hub: Entrepreneurs Need Not Be Fearless to Succeed. Here’s Why.
- PsychCentral: 10 Small Ways to Create Brighter, More Inspiring Days
- PsychCentral: The Most Important Probing Questions to Repeatedly Ask Ourselves (article)
- Happiness Insights: What Book Changed Your Life? (profile)
- Peppermint Magazine, Living with Less issue, “Happiness Habits” (article)
- Happy Mama Magazine – The Art of Living in Creativity (interview)
- Project Strong Woman (profile)
About me
Longing to seek – and find! – a beautifully expansive, inspired life? You’re in the right place. I’m Dr Rebecca Ray, writer and clinical psychologist. I’m here to support you and guide you and your adventurous heart as you learn, grow and explore the possibilities of the expansive, inspired life you deserve.
