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Essential boundaries for the festive season

Essential boundaries for the festive season

by Rebecca Ray | Anxiety, Courage, Relationships, Resilience, Self-care, Self-love, Self-worth

For all it’s shimmer and promise, the festive season can also bring a truckload of challenges for many people. If you’re not gleefully anticipating decorating the tree and trying to one-up Santa in the gift-giving stakes, then you might be feeling a...
40 Things I Refuse to Do Anymore: Lessons in Authenticity, Self-Preservation, and Brave Living

40 Things I Refuse to Do Anymore: Lessons in Authenticity, Self-Preservation, and Brave Living

by Rebecca Ray | Self-care

It’s not rare for me have periods of self-reflection. I do so on a daily basis, and deeply, in writing, on a monthly basis at least. But the eve of my 40th birthday brought a gift I wasn’t expecting, until I sat down and really thought about it: freedom. There’s...

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Rebecca Ray

Longing to seek – and find! – a beautifully expansive, inspired life? You’re in the right place. I’m Dr Rebecca Ray, writer and clinical psychologist. I’m here to support you and guide you and your adventurous heart as you learn, grow and explore the possibilities of the expansive, inspired life you deserve.

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My favourite artwork featuring a quote of mine - E My favourite artwork featuring a quote of mine - EVER. Art by Colette, aged 6. Gathered together with my words by the beautiful @a.c.sparks 💗 Thank you, Colette! Your rainbow, unicorn, and heart are exactly what the world needs right now 🌈🦄
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Following on from part 1 yesterday ... what if unc Following on from part 1 yesterday ... what if uncertainty was reframed as possibility? 💜
Renaming Uncertainty as Possibility . In a time of Renaming Uncertainty as Possibility . In a time of all of us collectively experiencing the world through an unknown lens, uncertainty, anxiety, and overwhelm are pervasive. . The world looks different. Our daily lives have been turned upside down. We are required to do things we’ve never done before and stop doing things we took for granted just a couple of weeks ago. . We are in this darkened time together, connected by a string of fairy lights shining with hope, patience, kindness, gratitude, and love. . And it’s here that I have an invitation for you, lovely one: I want to invite you to consider what’s possible for you in this landscape. . If uncertainty was renamed possibility, how would you show up differently? . To do this fully, and in the most self-compassionate way, we first need acknowledgement. Please take a moment to recognise and embrace any parts of you that are scared, grieving, shocked, puzzled, overwhelmed, frustrated, and stuck in scarcity. . Give a voice to these parts of you. What do they need from you? If you were to show leadership to yourself, what reassurance and validation would you give? . It’s from this place, that we can move forward – not away from the emotions, but with them held gently within, as part of our present experience. . Then, we take curiosity by the hand and look to what’s possible. . My invitation to you is to make use of the white space in your world right now to explore anew yourself, your life, your relationships, and your roles. . I want to offer you some guiding questions to help scaffold this self-inquiry, because possibility is a powerful entry point to changing your experience, if you allow yourself to dive in without judgement and self-censorship. . So, here’s Part 1 💗
Because we just don’t know right now. . But I’ Because we just don’t know right now. . But I’m choosing to see this time as an invitation into possibility: - to create more - to connect deeper - to love harder - to take personal responsibility - to resist complaining - to celebrate gratefully - to help as much as I can . What’s possible for you, lovely ones?
If you're overwhelmed with the fear and anxiety sw If you're overwhelmed with the fear and anxiety sweeping the world right now, and struggling to keep your heart open and your head clear through it all, I see you, and I'm with you. . While I can only send you virtual hugs (and reminders to wash your hands and stay physically distant), I wanted to give you something to help you process any fear you're experiencing, as well as gently guide you out of scarcity and towards possibility. . I’ve recorded this free meditation for you to download and listen to when you need it. It's 6 minutes long - the perfect length for kicking anxiety to the curb, but not so long that you need to organise snacks for a listening session! . Download it via the link in my bio 💜 Go gently, lovely ones xo
SWIPE - >> Confusion is more than understandable. SWIPE - >> Confusion is more than understandable. . The dictionary definition suggests that acceptance *is* liking, wanting, approving of, agreeing with. . But the way we work with emotional acceptance is quite different. . It’s an approach of allowing the things we can’t change to be as they are, in order to conserve our energy for changing the things that are more flexible. . Acceptance is releasing ourselves from the struggle - a struggle that often intensifies and worsens our experience - to move towards action that’s aligned with what matters according to our values 💜 . Acceptance takes practise, and can be easier or harder depending on how much the challenge stretches our mental, emotional, physical, and energy resources. . It’s not simply something we master in one take. Different life chapters (and worldwide pandemics) demand different levels of acceptance, and the harder the challenge, the more necessary (and often more difficult) acceptance is. . Go gently, lovely ones. I see you. I’m with you 💜
This is for anyone who is weighing up their option This is for anyone who is weighing up their options right now. Like any tiny square on social media, it's not an exhaustive list. But here are some reflection points to help you think through where you're at. . I find it's particularly helpful to talk these through with someone you trust, but please make sure this person is not someone who generally shrinks from the hard things in life. . Many of the most worthwhile things in this world are the the things we work the hardest for. Hard work, and facing challenges head on, are what shapes us. . If you're someone that's struggled to stick at things before, perhaps given up before you've given it a decent shot, perhaps shied away from it as soon as it became hard, then instead of the points above, I want to ask you to have a chat with your future self. It's these conversations that remind us when something is worth the effort and when it's not. . 𝗦𝗼, 𝗶𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗹𝗲𝗱 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗮𝗴𝗲𝗼𝘂𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻, 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼?
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