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About me

Rebecca Ray

Longing to seek – and find! – a beautifully expansive, inspired life? You’re in the right place. I’m Dr Rebecca Ray, writer and clinical psychologist. I’m here to support you and guide you and your adventurous heart as you learn, grow and explore the possibilities of the expansive, inspired life you deserve.

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FREE QUIZ: Is Self-Sabotage Ruining Your Life?

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This kind of self- trust 😍

This kind of self- trust 😍

Hands up if you can you relate? This is what the

IT’S HERE! . Season 2 of my most popular course,

IT’S HERE!
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Season 2 of my most popular course, Overcoming Self-Sabotage: From Paralysis to Progress is now open!
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If you don't want 2020 to be defined by the same old unhelpful habits that are keeping you stuck in a holding pattern, then this is for you.
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Whether it's procrastination, perfectionism, choosing comfort, staying attached to mistakes, refusing to try, or comparison with others ... I want to help you stop giving away your time to self-sabotage and instead, actually do the things you say you want to do.
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Want details? Link in bio! 💫

This is how I reframe brave and meaningful living.

This is how I reframe brave and meaningful living. Find the pain and look on the other side of it. That’s where you’ll find your values 💗

“In a world where so many choices are demanded o

Self-trust is a practice. Tiny actions we repeat o

Hands up if this is you 🙋 Perfectionism is not

And sometimes waiting for it to pass can be a very

And sometimes waiting for it to pass can be a very impatient process! 😅

Because living bravely is worth it, and because th

Because living bravely is worth it, and because the only person who can honour your truth is you 💗

If you're planning to make a change in an area of

If you're planning to make a change in an area of your life where you feel out of alignment, a roadblock to watch out for is the one that promises a different future "starting tomorrow"!
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Procrastination is the most insidious form of self-protection that we have. It's seductive. It convinces you that tomorrow is your day.

Or next Monday.
Or the 1st of the month.
Or when all the uncertainty is resolved.
Or when you've finished studying/ got your dream job/ met the love of your life/ house-trained the puppy.
Or when you feel motivated.
Or when you have your father's/ partner's/ child's/ third grade teacher's approval.

Simply, you'll start when the discomfort is gone. Promise.

Except you don't - because the discomfort never disappears. In fact, it often intensifies.

And so procrastination becomes your band-aid for all the things above.

Firstly, please know that we all procrastinate. A little procrastination is not a problem.

It becomes a problem when it starts to sabotage your goals and pushes you away from where you want to be.

If you can relate, I’m hosting
a 𝗙𝗥𝗘𝗘 𝟭-𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗺𝗮𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗰𝗹𝗮𝘀𝘀: 𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗦𝘁𝗼𝗽 𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗦𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘁𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝗟𝗶𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗕𝗿𝗮𝘃𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗟𝗶𝗳𝗲.

It's on this Friday at 9 AM AEST (a replay will be available if you can’t make it!). 𝗦𝗶𝗴𝗻 𝘂𝗽 𝘃𝗶𝗮 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗸 𝗶𝗻 𝗺𝘆 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗳𝗶𝗹𝗲!

Please don’t give up your choices about how you

Please don’t give up your choices about how you live this one, incredible life, to someone who’s not you. 🌿

As January slides into February very shortly, I th

As January slides into February very shortly, I thought this was a good time to talk about the 𝗺𝘆𝘁𝗵𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻:

1. It's not motivation that will help you succeed. It's a commitment to action, even when you don't feel like it.

2. If you wait around until you feel motivated, you might be waiting a very long time. Motivation is a feeling, and that means that we can't always predict when it will arrive or pass.

3. Motivation is cultivated by taking action. The more you do, the more your brain rewards you with a hit of dopamine (the neurotransmitter that tells us to repeat a behaviour), and the more motivated you'll feel.

4. Consider whether or not you have the 'kind' of motivation to do what it is you're trying to.

a) 𝗘𝘅𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗻𝗮𝗹-𝗯𝗮𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 is motivation that comes from avoiding something bad happening e.g. making a certain number of sales calls so your boss doesn't fire you (rather than making them because you love cold-calling people so they hang up on you).
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b) 𝗚𝗼𝗮𝗹-𝗯𝗮𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 is motivation that's purely attached to the outcome. Very hard to maintain when the process gets hard and challenges show up, and it will disappear as soon as the outcome is reached.

c) 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀-𝗯𝗮𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 celebrates your growth on the journey, for all the little wins to be celebrated, and challenges to be overcome, along the way. Helps you to stay close to your reasons for starting in the first place.

So, the question is not 'How motivated are you?' Instead, it's 'Are you willing to do the work even when you don't feel like it to build motivation in the long term?'

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