The Language of Experience

Much of the work I do focuses on helping people accept their humanness – the task of coming to a place of peace with the joy and suffering that is living. And in the service of this education, I often talk about the painful parts of being human: the challenge of feeling a spectrum of emotions that heavily seesaws towards discomfort (two thirds of our emotions fall into shades that are uncomfortable to experience).

But we’re missing a very important part of the feelings conversation if we don’t also talk about emotions as precious messengers that give us information about ourselves, others, and the world, that we can get nowhere else.

Are You Listening?

Your feelings are speaking.

There is meaning in your emotions. Seek to understand what your feelings are trying to tell you, especially when you are hurting, and you’ll open up to answers you didn’t know you needed and questions you never though to ask.

But to do so, we must listen when our feelings ask us to.

We must honour their voices, for they are the language of our experience even when we don’t have words to place alongside it.

And so, for you, the ones who are seeking to expand, or to heal, or to go deeper, or to know yourself more intuitively, use your emotions as seeds of understanding.

Messengers of Meaning

Here’s some suggestions for what your emotions might be trying to tell you:

  • When you feel scared, your feelings are prompting you that something in your spaces is (or seems) threating.
  • When you feel uncertain, your feelings are prompting you to realise that you’re exploring unfamiliar territory.
  • When you feel self-doubting, your feelings are prompting you that you’ve forgotten your strengths.
  • When you feel guilty, your feelings are prompting you that either you’ve made a legitimate mistake that needs correcting, or that you’re dishonouring your own needs in favour of prioritising someone else’s.
  • When you feel demotivated, your feelings are prompting you that you need a break.
  • When you feel overwhelmed, your feelings are prompting you that you are asking too much of yourself.
  • When you feel frustrated, your feelings are prompting you that you’re blocked or stuck in some way.
  • When you feel angry, your feelings are prompting you that a boundary of yours has been crossed.
  • When you feel sad, your feelings are prompting you that you care deeply.
  • When you fee mistrustful, your feelings are prompting you that you’ve given a piece of yourself previously that’s been mishandled.
  • When you feel jealous, your feelings are prompting you that you’re disconnected from gratitude.
  • When you feel grief, your feelings are prompting you that something precious has been lost.
  • When you feel lonely, your feelings are prompting you that your heart needs a witness.
  • When you feel disappointed, your feelings are prompting you that something hasn’t worked out as you hoped.
  • When you feel rejected, your feelings are prompting you that your sense of belonging has been shaken.
  • When you feel shame, your feelings are prompting you that you’re rejecting a part of yourself.
  •  When you feel regret, your feelings are prompting you that you’re learned, or have learned, difficult lessons.
  • When you feel dissatisfied, your feelings are prompting you that you crave discovery.
  • When you feel bored, your feelings are prompting you that your curiosity wants to be fed.
  • When you feel impatient, your feelings are prompting you that your timing is not always the same as the Universe’s timing.
  • When you feel unworthy, your feelings are prompting you that your inner world is asking to be nurtured.
  • When you feel exhausted, your feelings are prompting you that your reserves are empty.

Find a quiet moment. Breathe into stillness. Notice which feelings are showing up. What are they trying to tell you? And are you truly listening?